Letting Your Child Take Ownership

Letting our kids take ownership of their sport is something we hear over and over. But, what does it mean and how do we do it?

I spoke with Chris Plumb, Head Coach/CEO of the Carmel Swim Club of Indiana, a Gold Medal Club in USA Swimming’s Club Excellence Program, to ask him his top tips for swim parents.

His number one piece of advice was to let our kids take ownership and the sooner the better. “How do you give ownership? By asking good questions. Good questions are when you are not telling your swimmer what they should or should not do, but instead ask questions that will let your swimmer think and reflect on what they are doing,” Coach Plumb said.

“Examples of good questions are ‘What did your coach say?’ ‘How did you feel about your swim?’ or ‘What are you working on?’ Let them think through what they are doing and always tell them, ‘I love watching you swim and compete.’ ”

In addition, Coach Plumb said he’s not in a big hurry with his swimmers, he uses patience and a holistic approach to coaching.

“We want them to fall in love with the sport. We continually send out good information to parents like newsletters and great articles about Long Term Athletic Development. In every piece of communication with parents we reinforce our belief in LTAD over and over.”

Here are a four questions to discover if we are giving ownership to our kids:


Are we more enthusiastic about swimming and our child’s success than they are?


Are we sharing the experience with our swimmers, or is it more about our feelings than theirs?


Are we happy they’re learning life lessons and staying healthy? Or, do we focus more on results and performance?


Do we know what our children’s goals are in swimming? Or, is it more about our own goals?