OUR EXPECTATIONS FOR PARENTS/FAMILIES
For daily practices, parents/family members will:
- Make sure swimmers get to practice on time
- Pick up your swimmers on time
- Share questions & concerns with coach before/after practice, but not during
- Encourage swimmers to do their best and have fun
- Resist the urge to coach your swimmer yourself (this is detrimental to your swimmer and his/her relationship with the coach)
In team affairs outside of practice, parents/family members will:
- Assist in planning and execution of team events (min. 12 volunteer hours per year, per family)
- Serve on Parent Board if willing and able
- Volunteer to train and officiate at meets if willing and able
At swim meets, parents/family members will:
- Sign up for meets and pay necessary entrance fees
- Get your swimmer to/from the meet
- Help swimmer to learn to navigate meets independently
- Resist the urge to coach your swimmer yourself
- Work 1 timing shift/day that your swimmer competes
- Celebrate all swims!
HOW FAMILIES CAN SUPPORT THEIR SWIMMERS
The Gators are firm believers in the “10 Commandments for Swimming Parents” (by Rose Snyder) and we encourage families to use them as a guide for how best to support your swimmers:
- Thou shalt not impose your ambitions on thy child. Remember that swimming is your child's activity. Improvements and progress occur at different rates for each individual. Don't judge your child's progress based on the performance of other athletes and don't push them based on what you think they should be doing. The nice thing about swimming is people can strive to do their personal best and benefit from the process of competitive swimming.
- Thou shalt be supportive no matter what. There is only one question to ask your child after a practice or a competition - "Did you have fun?" If meets and practices are not fun, your child should not be forced to participate.
- Thou shalt not coach thy child. You are involved in one of the few youth sports programs that offer professional coaching, do not undermine the professional coach by trying to coach your child on the side. Your job is to provide unconditional love and support and a safe place to return at the end of the day. Love and hug your child no matter what. Tell them how proud of them you are. The coach is responsible for the technical part of the job. You should not offer advice on technique or race strategy or any other area that is not yours. And above all, never pay your child for a performance. This will only serve to confuse your child concerning the reasons to strive for excellence and weaken the swimmer/coach bond.
- Thou shalt only have positive things to say at a swimming meet. If you are going to show up at a swimming meet, you should be encouraging, but never criticize your child or the coach. Both of them know when mistakes have been made. And remember “yelling at” is not the same as “cheering for”. You also may want to consider being positive anytime you are around the pool.
- Thou shalt acknowledge thy child's fears. A first swimming meet, 500 free or 200 IM can be a stressful situation. It is totally appropriate for your child to be scared. Don't yell or belittle, just assure your child that the coach would not have suggested the event if your child was not ready to compete in it. Remember your job is to love and support your child through all of the swimming experience. Most of their fears are one’s you have given them.
- Thou shalt not criticize the officials. If you do not care to devote the time or do not have the desire to volunteer as an official, don't criticize those who are doing the best they can. You too can be trained to be an official in an afternoon.
- Honor thy child's coach. The bond between coach and swimmer is a special one, and one that contributes to your child's success as well as fun. Do not criticize the coach in the presence of your child, it will only serve to hurt your child's swimming.
- Thou shalt be loyal and supportive of thy team. It is not wise for parents to take their swimmers and to jump from team to team. The water isn't necessarily bluer in another team's pool. Every team has its own internal problems, even teams that build champions. Children who switch from team to team are often ostracized for a long, long time by the teammates they leave behind and are slowly received by new team mates. Often times swimmers who do switch teams never do better than they did before they sought the bluer water.
- Thy child shalt have goals besides winning. Most successful swimmers are those who have learned to focus on the process and not the outcome. Giving an honest effort regardless of what the outcome is, is much more important than winning. One Olympian said, "My goal was to set a world record. Well, I did that, but someone else did it too, just a little faster than I did. I achieved my goal and I lost. Does this make me a failure? No, in fact I am very proud of that swim." What a tremendous outlook to carry on through life.
- Thou shalt not expect thy child to become an Olympian. There are 280,000 athletes in USA Swimming. Only 2% of the swimmers listed in the 10 & Under age group make it to the Top 100 in the 17-18 age group and of those only a small percentage will become elite level, world class athletes. There are only 52 spots available for the Olympic Team every four years. Your child's odds of becoming an Olympian are about .0002%. Swimming is much more than just the Olympics. Ask your coaches why they coach. Chances are, they were not an Olympian, but still got so much out of swimming that they wanted to pass the love for the sport on to others. Swimming teaches self-discipline and sportsmanship; it builds self-esteem and fitness; it provides lifelong friendships and much more. Most Olympians will tell you that these intangibles far outweigh any medal they may have won. Swimming builds good people, like you want your child to be, and you should be happy your child wants to participate.
Remember that the attitude and behavior of the parent in regard to swimming has a substantial effect on the child. In swimming, as in life, no one can win or succeed all the time. There will always be some disappointments and swimming offers a wonderful opportunity for young people to learn to overcome such disappointments in a healthy and productive way. Every swimmer can gain from the team experience whether or not they ever win a single race. The important thing is to keep striving to do better next time. It is more important to produce great young people who can swim rather than just great swimmers.