Expectations for our Team Parents
- Please get your child to practice on time. Parents, if you are watching from the pool deck, please refrain from engaging the coaches or your swimmers during practice. Coaches reserve the right to ask you to leave if you are disrupting practice.
- Get your child to swim meets on time.
- Make sure your child is signed up for meets by the due date on the meet schedule.
- Address any concerns to a Coach or Aquatics Department in a timely manner.
- Support the team and all of its members.
- Get involved! We rely on our volunteers to successfully host meets. Volunteer your time to help the team in useful ways (a list of jobs will be delegated each season and parents are required to volunteer). If your child is swimming in a meet, one family member will be required to volunteer for at minimum one shift. If you do not sign up, your family will be assigned a spot. (See Parent Service Responsibility Form)
As a nonprofit organization, we rely on the support of all. During home meets, we need all parents help to make it run smoothly and be successful (once again volunteering time is mandatory for every family):
- Set-up and Take-down
- Timers and runners
- Call Board, Security
- Clerk of course
Communication is important for any successful program. Our main line of communication will be the team website and email. With that our coaches are always available. For further questions about your child progress or general questions about the team, do not hesitate to talk to the coaching staff (please do not interrupt practice but contact coaches before or after practice).
The Parent-Swimmer Relationship
It is not the intention of any YMCA coach to advise a parent, or parents, on how to raise their children. No one understands the parent-child relationship better than a parent. In an athletic environment, human nature often prevents a parent from remaining detached and objective in matters concerning their children. If you have questions or concerns, please get the coaches involved so they can help.
Everyone involved in the type of training program conducted by YMCA must realize that each individual learns at a different rate and responds differently to the various methods of skill development. The slower developer obviously takes more time to learn and requires more patience on the part of the parents and coaches. Each swimmer will reach their goals at a different rate.
The ultimate swimming goal for a parent should be a swimmer that is self-motivated, self-confident and feels good about themselves and the goals they have achieved.
We encourage parents to:
- use positive encouragement to fill your child’s Emotional Tank because athletes do their best when their “Emotional Tank” is full. Fewer than 1% of youth sports participants receive college scholarships and the top three reasons kids play sports are: a) to have fun, b) to make new friends, and c) to learn new skills.
- reinforce the ELM Tree of Mastery with your child (E for Effort, L for Learning and M for bouncing back from Mistakes). Winners are people who make maximum effort, continue to learn and improve, and do not let mistakes, or fear of making mistakes, stop them.
- do your best to get the participant to practice and swim meets on time. Understanding that you may be putting him/her at risk by not providing adequate time for warm up. This shows respect for the coach, and it tells my swimmer that he/she is my top priority.
- You Honor the Sport of Swimming and understand the importance of setting a good example for your child. No matter what others may do, you show respect for all involved in swimming including coaches, swimmers, spectators and officials.
- realize that coaches and officials are human, and feel terrible when they make a mistake - just like you do!
- say, “What did you learn?” after your swimmer just got DQ’d.
- promote team unity and cheer for athletes who are not your own children. You emphasize the importance of the “team” and cheering for teammates.
- drive carpools that would make a NYC cab driver dizzy.
- help set-up or breakdown for events that you did not sign-up to help with.
- understand that only the four faster swimmers can be on the “A” relay team.
- help new parents “learn the ropes” in a positive way.
- know that there is nothing heavier than a great potential and won’t put your athlete under any additional burden.
- realize that one single swim is not all that important; it’s the process that counts.
- congratulate your son or daughter’s friend for doing a best time because recognition by another adult, besides a parent, is very important.
- realize that every swimmer is a winner as long as they try their best.
- support your child’s swimming by helping support the organization that brings your child the opportunity.