Parents Code 


As a parent of a swimmer and member of the Utica Shelby Swim Club, I will abide by the following guidelines:

                  I.      As a parent, I will practice teamwork with all parents, swimmers and coaches by supporting the values of Discipline, Loyalty, Commitment, and Hard Work.


                  II.      As a parent, I will not coach or instruct any swimmer at practice or meets or interfere with coaches on the pool deck.


                  III.      As a parent, I will demonstrate good sportsmanship by conducting myself in a manner that earns the respect of my child, other swimmers, parents, officials and the coaches at meets and practices.


                  IV.      As a parent, I will maintain self - control at all times.  I will know my role.

                                    “Swimmers - Swim”

                                    “Coaches - Coach”

                                    “Officials - Officiate”

                                    “Parents - Parent”


                  V.      As a parent, I understand that criticizing, name calling, use of abusive language or gestures directed toward the coaches, officials, and/or participating swimmers will not be permitted or tolerated.


                  VI.      As a parent, I will help my athlete enjoy positive experiences by maintaining an open line of communication with the coaches and my athlete about goal setting, practice attendance and work ethic.


                  VII.      As a parent, I will provide positive reinforcement to all swimmers in all situations, always practicing team spirit and team loyalty.


                  VIII.      As a parent, I will enjoy involvement with the Utica Shelby Swim Club by supporting the swimmers, coaches and other parents with positive communication and actions.


                  IX.      During competitions, questions or concerns regarding decisions made by meet officials are directed to a member of our coaching staff.  Parents address officials through the coaching staff only. 


Should I conduct myself in such a way that brings discredit to the Utica Shelby Swim Club or USA Swimming, I understand that I subject myself to any action that my be deemed necessary by the Executive Board to handle the situation.  The Utica Shelby Swim Club reserves the right to terminate any membership with or without reason in the interest of our vision, mission, and objectives.



(adapted from Ed Clendaniel’s 10 Commandments for Little League Parents)


     1.  Thou shall not impose your ambitions on thy child. Remember that swimming is your child’s activity. Improvements and progress occur at different rates for each individual. Don’t judge your child’s progress based on the performance of other athletes and don’t push them based on what you think they should be doing. The nice thing about swimming is every person can strive to do their personal best.

     2.  Thou shall be supportive no matter what. There is only one question to ask your child "Did you have fun?" If meets and practices are not fun, your child should not be forced to participate.

     3.  Thou shall not coach your child. You have taken your child to a professional coach, do not undermine that coach by trying to coach your child on the side. Your job is to support, love and hug your child no matter what. The coach is responsible for the technical part of the job. You should not offer advice on technique or race strategy. That is not your area. This will only serve to confuse your child and prevent that swimmer/coach bond from forming.

     4.  Thou shall only have positive things to say at a swimming meet. If you are going to show up at a swimming meet, you should cheer and applaud, but never criticize your child or the coach.

     5.  Thou shall acknowledge thy child’s fears. A first swimming meet, 500 free or 200 IM can be a stressful situation. It is totally appropriate for your child to be scared. Don’t yell or belittle, just assure your child that the coach would not have suggested the event if your child was not ready to compete in it.

     6.  Thou shall not criticize the officials. If you do not have the time or the desire to volunteer as an official don’t criticize those who are doing the best they can.

     7.  Honor thy child’s coach. The bond between coach and swimmer is a special one, and one that contributes to your child’s success as well as fun. Do not criticize the coach in the presence of your child, it will only serve to hurt your child’s swimming.

     8.  Thy child shall have goals besides winning. Giving an honest effort regardless of what the outcome is, is much more important than winning. One Olympian said, "My goal was to set a world record. Well, I did that, but someone else did it too, just a little faster than I did. I achieved my goal and I lost. This does not make me a failure, in fact, I am very proud of that swim."

      9.  Thou shall not expect thy child to become an Olympian. There are 225,000 athletes in United States Swimming. There are only 52 spots available for the Olympic Team every four years. Your child’s odds of becoming an Olympian are 1 in about 4,300. Swimming is much more than just the Olympics. Ask your coach why he coaches. Chances are, he was not an Olympian, but still got enough out of swimming that he wants to pass that love for the sport on to others. Swimming teaches self discipline and sportsmanship; it builds self esteem and fitness; it provides lifelong friendships and much more. Most Olympians will tell you that these intangibles far outweigh any medal they may have won. Swimming builds good people and you should be happy your child wants to participate.

     10.  Thou shall be a positive influence to everyone involved with the Utica Shelby Swim Club.