10 Things all Swim Parents Should Know

Adam Depmore
Oct 7, 2018

Over the last 20 years, I have learned a lot from families on our team. I was very fortunate to be surrounded by amazing swim parents early in my career. Some of my first mentors are actually still on the team (shout out to the Mosers!!!) and Coach Dax’s parents. I learned a lot from these families as they were instrumental in molding my approach to not only dealing with athletes, but other parents as well. 

Listed below are 10 vital things I believe all swim parents should know.For more information about Athlete development, please review the Athlete Development section of our web page. 


All kids progress at different rates. Don’t compare your kids to other swimmers. I’ve seen many parents pull their swimmers from out team because their swimmer wasn’t “beating” another swimmer on our team. Remember, we are raising our athletes to be teammates not enemies. Comparison is the thievery of joy. Be happy and supportive for all athletes on our team.


When kids get older, it doesn’t matter when their birthday falls on the calendar. Aging up to 11 or 13 may seem like a tough transition, but it is all part of the process. Learning to rise up teaches our athletes to be strong. Aging up won’t be as big of a deal as it when they’re young.


Understand your role as a parent is to parent. Don’t coach from the sidelines…EVER.  It undermines us as Coaches and destroys the joy of swimming for the athlete. 


Don’t put your expectations on your child’s performance. Don’t put too much emphasis on their times. Support them when they fall….Teach them how to pick themselves up. 


Make sure your children receive plenty of rest. Excessive training over a long period time leads to overtraining, stunts physical growth, leads to mental frustration, and often leads to an athlete plateauing. 


When kids plateau in their best events, suggest they talk to their coach about swimming off events for a few meets. They may improve greatly in strokes and events they haven’t swum for a while.

If anything, your coach may ask to meet and discuss your athlete’s progress. Don’t seek out private training from trainers who offer “quick fixes”. Anyone can point out what a swimmer needs to “fix”. Our goal is continual improvement throughout their swimming career.


Cheer for all Lone Star swimmers, not just your own. Be genuine, don’t just show teeth. Be interested in how other kids are doing. 


Be a Fan not a FANatic. Enjoy every moment. Create memories, friendships and have fun with your kids.


Don’t set goals with your athlete. Let them set goals with their coaches. This will teach them independence while building a relationship with their coach. 


Commit to improve as a parent. All of us must commit to this. Everyone makes mistakes. Own up to your mistakes and move forward.

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