10 Things all Swim Parents Should Know

Adam Depmore
Oct 7, 2018

Over the last 20 years, I have learned a lot from families on our team. I was very fortunate to be surrounded by amazing swim parents early in my career. Some of my first mentors are actually still on the team (shout out to the Mosers!!!) and Coach Dax’s parents. I learned a lot from these families as they were instrumental in molding my approach to not only dealing with athletes, but other parents as well. 

Listed below are 10 vital things I believe all swim parents should know.For more information about Athlete development, please review the Athlete Development section of our web page. 

ONE

All kids progress at different rates. Don’t compare your kids to other swimmers. I’ve seen many parents pull their swimmers from out team because their swimmer wasn’t “beating” another swimmer on our team. Remember, we are raising our athletes to be teammates not enemies. Comparison is the thievery of joy. Be happy and supportive for all athletes on our team.

TWO

When kids get older, it doesn’t matter when their birthday falls on the calendar. Aging up to 11 or 13 may seem like a tough transition, but it is all part of the process. Learning to rise up teaches our athletes to be strong. Aging up won’t be as big of a deal as it when they’re young.

THREE

Understand your role as a parent is to parent. Don’t coach from the sidelines…EVER.  It undermines us as Coaches and destroys the joy of swimming for the athlete. 

FOUR

Don’t put your expectations on your child’s performance. Don’t put too much emphasis on their times. Support them when they fall….Teach them how to pick themselves up. 

FIVE

Make sure your children receive plenty of rest. Excessive training over a long period time leads to overtraining, stunts physical growth, leads to mental frustration, and often leads to an athlete plateauing. 

SIX

When kids plateau in their best events, suggest they talk to their coach about swimming off events for a few meets. They may improve greatly in strokes and events they haven’t swum for a while.

If anything, your coach may ask to meet and discuss your athlete’s progress. Don’t seek out private training from trainers who offer “quick fixes”. Anyone can point out what a swimmer needs to “fix”. Our goal is continual improvement throughout their swimming career.

SEVEN

Cheer for all Lone Star swimmers, not just your own. Be genuine, don’t just show teeth. Be interested in how other kids are doing. 

EIGHT

Be a Fan not a FANatic. Enjoy every moment. Create memories, friendships and have fun with your kids.

NINE

Don’t set goals with your athlete. Let them set goals with their coaches. This will teach them independence while building a relationship with their coach. 

TEN

Commit to improve as a parent. All of us must commit to this. Everyone makes mistakes. Own up to your mistakes and move forward.

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